How Men Can Avoid The Valentine’s Craze
How Men Can Avoid The Valentine’s Craze
Have you rushed out to buy that expensive piece of jewelry? Maybe you’re planning on doing another year of flowers and candy. Dining at a crowded restaurant again?
Or maybe, just maybe… This is the year you’re going to pop the question…
Before you make your next move, I want to share something with you man to man. You can skip the Valentine’s performance. Sound good?
Keep reading…
All romantic gestures are in vain when you’re missing the key ingredient for long-term success. But there’s a secret to making your spouse feel like she’s experiencing Valentine’s Day every day. If you want to lead your marriage with strength, love, and compassion, you can’t afford to screw this up. That’s why I’ve created a Valentine’s cheat sheet to help you give your woman what she wants the most. After you follow these steps, I’m sure your spouse will shower you with respect, adoration, and affection.
Ready to crack open the play book? Let’s get started.
How’s Your Relationship The Other 364 Days Of The Year?
Perhaps that’s a sobering question in itself. Go ahead and sit with that thought for a moment. I tell you one thing though. It’s amusing to watch people buy into the holiday hype.
•Christmas = maxing out your credit cards for lavish gifts
•Thanksgiving = stuffing your belly with tons of food
•Halloween = dressing up in costumes and encouraging kids to beg for candy from strangers
•Valentine’s Day =?
Let’s fill in the blank together. ;)
Society teaches us that Valentine’s Day is the one day of the year that you’re supposed to treat the woman in your life like she’s special. Wait a second…
So, I guess this is the only time you’re required to:
•Open doors
•Pull out her chair
•Make dinner reservations
•Say I love you
•Buy flowers and presents
Hopefully, you can already see what’s wrong with this picture. Guys, this way of thinking is the first part of the problem. If your spouse hasn’t been your priority for the other 364 days in the year, putting her at the top of your list for one day isn’t going to suddenly turn your relationship around.
Consistently Filling Her Love Tank Is Better Than Buying Roses And Chocolates
Hear me when I say that I’m not proposing you ignore Valentine’s Day. That’ll only add fuel to the fire. And You Before Me is all about enhancing marriages. But I am saying that consistent expressions of love are the secret to taking your relationship to the next level. I had to learn this lesson the hard way. In the beginning of my marriage, my priorities were out of order.
•Work
•Friends
•Hobbies
came before my wife. This caused a severe disconnect between the two of us. But it was when I became intentional about putting my wife first that everything changed.
Taking Time To Remember The Little Things Means More To Her Than One Grand Gesture Of Love Per Year
According to the bible, when a man finds a wife he finds a good thing. So, why on earth would you take that for granted? Only giving her attention for one day won’t make her feel very appreciated. Think about it this way. Do you only want your wife to make love to you once a year? Didn’t think so. Your spouse feels the same way. She yearns for romance, emotional intimacy, and thoughtfulness throughout the year. This is what I like to refer to as watering your marriage garden.
Take Advantage of These Tips from the You Before Me Men’s Play Book:
•Taking her out one weekend doesn’t mean you can ignore her the next
•Make dating a priority
•Attentively listen when she talks
•Set aside 30 minutes a day to engage in a real heart-to-heart (Go beyond, “How was your day?”)
•Surprise her just because
Don’t Let Society Lead Your Marriage
Part of being a great leader is knowing when and how to make decisions. That applies to your marriage too. As mighty warriors, we should never wait to take our relationship queues from society. An over 50% divorce rate exists for a reason. But your marriage can be different. You can do something different
•Don’t follow the crowd
•Don’t immolate negative behaviors of family and friends
•Create a new marriage paradigm
•Cling to God’s word regarding how you should lead your marriage
How Can I Exceed My Spouse’s Expectations Through Valentine’s Day And Beyond?
Mastering a leadership role in your marriage and family starts by serving. And this Valentine’s Day I’d like to help you begin the process. Below are a few tips and resources to help you get started with watering your marriage garden.
Start Speaking Your Wife’s Love Language
Instead of focusing on a grand gesture for one day, try surprising her with small acts of love for several days. This can include acts of kindness, gifts, quality time. Whatever your wife’s love language may be.
You can also check out our Facebook page for innovative ideas on putting your wife first this Valentine’s. We’ll be posting one intimacy ignitor for the next seven days.
https://www.facebook.com/YBMMarriages/