How To Give Your Marriage The Tune-Up Or Lifeline It Needs
She did it again.
The nagging and criticizing is constant…
I come home from work, and the first thing I hear when I walk through the door…
- Why didn’t you do this?
- When are you going to do that?
- I’m not happy with this.
According to her, I must be the world’s biggest failure.
I can’t express how many men secretly feel this way.
I also can’t count how many of these stories I hear from women:
He’s never home. He doesn’t spend any time with me and the kids. Then when he is home, he still isn’t really present. The only time he wants to be close is when he’s ready to have sex.
I suppose both scenarios could make someone question the entire purpose of marriage. If every day is filled with frustrations and disappointments, why bother?
Take Your Hand Off the Wheel
Dear brother or sister,
You are not in control of your marriage. Maybe that’s alarming to hear. If so, I get it.
For the longest time, I thought I was in control of my marriage too. I was convinced it was up to me to make things work. Success or failure of my relationship rested on my shoulders. Boy, was I naïve back then.
That brings to mind the obvious question. If you’re not in charge of your marriage…
Who is?
Give Christ Permission to Lead Your Marriage
Left to our own fleshly desires, we’ll never get marriage or any other relationships right. That’s because by nature we’re selfish. And at some point, we’ll give into those selfish desires if we don’t have a holy compass guiding the way.
But here’s what can happen when you allow God to order your steps.
- A spirit of forgiveness enters your heart
- Humility kicks in
- You’ll see your spouse as your allied, not your enemy
- Arguments will diminish in record time
- Thinking of ways to please your spouse becomes a pleasure
- Divorce is never an option
Here’s My Proposal to You
Take a moment to really think about your marriage. If you’re not driving, I’d even like you to close your eyes for a second.
Now think about your relationship. Consider the time you’ve spent with your spouse. Has it been mostly good? Primarily bad? Is there room for improvement? Are there things you’re willing to improve?
Can you picture your life without your spouse?
Hold on to that thought as I share my heart with you.
My wife and I created the You Before Me platform to ignite a radical change in marriages. We’ve directly, and indirectly, encountered too many couples who hastily decided to terminate their marriage. And to be perfectly honest… I don’t want that to happen to you.
Sometimes it’s the big issues that can test a marriage. Infidelity, addiction, and lack of trust are all valid reasons to part ways.
Then there is something known as the cumulative effect. Maybe your marriage has been stagnate for a while. Perhaps issues have compounded over the years. Now you find yourself weary and at the end of your ropes.
Either way… Do you really want to walk away? Because if there’s even an ounce of you that wants to save your marriage, don’t you owe it to yourself to give it a try.
Did I quit to soon?
Marriage Coaching Can Help You Transition
The best athletes, pastors, and leaders are successful because they allowed someone to help them improve their skills. Marriage isn’t any different. We can all use a little help sometimes. And there’s no shame in that.
My wife and I received mentorship in the early years of our marriage. Much of the advice from wise counsel helped us get back on track. Now God has blessed us to serve other couples in the same way.
We never judge. We’re only here to love and support you through any challenges you may be facing.
Together, we’ll tear down the weakened infrastructure your marriage is currently built on. In its place, we’ll build a solid and steadfast foundation that can’t be broken. In many ways, it’ll be much better than what you had the first time around.
That’s because this time your marriage will be built on:
- Christ
- True virtues of love
- You before me mindset
- Marriage strategy
We’re Here to Support You
Fitting the puzzle pieces together can be a bit challenging when you try to do it alone. Trust me. We’ve been there. That’s why we want to help you during this transition phase. We’ve spent over a decade developing a model that has shaped and strengthened our marriage.
I can honestly say we’re truly more in love now than we were in the newlywed phase. But it took a lot of work to get here. Our desire is to help you avoid the pitfalls while focusing on numerous strategies to save and strengthen your marriage.
We’d love to help you:
- Remember how the two of you felt when times were good
- Discover the adventure and newness marriage can still bring
- Craft a marriage strategy for tackling any obstacle that comes your way
Give Us a Call Now!
You have a brother and sister in Christ waiting with open hearts and attentive ears. Hear me when I say we’re here to support you every step of the way. Maybe this is a last-ditch effort for you. Or perhaps things have gotten stagnate and you’re searching for a few intimacy ignitors to rekindle passion.
Whatever stage you’re in… We’re here for you.
Schedule a free 30-minute discovery session
to discuss whatever is on your heart. We’re here to listen and provide biblically-based advice to strengthen your marriage.
P.S.
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May God Bless You!
Charles & Zonnette
